Archive for September, 2010

Happiness by Design and Your Psychology

If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!

Have you ever known someone who constantly blames others for the bad things that happen to them? They blame their ex for making them feel bad, they blame their partner for not trying hard enough in the relationship, they blame their boss for making work awful, they blame their friends for being negative – there’s a lot of blame going on.

Here’s a little home truth: your happiness is your own responsibility.

It’s true! You really can design your own happiness and choose to feel great every single day. You can have great friends, a wonderful relationship and a brilliant job.

The key to these things is designing your own happiness using the power of your own psychology.

You see, everything that’s happening in your life right now was brought about by choices you made. You have the choice to accept those things, or you can choose to try something different. It’s completely up to you.

Think about why you’re not feeling as happy as you want to be right now. Are you in a miserable job? You choose to accept that job, just as it’s your choice whether you seek out a better job or stay where you are. You might choose to find things about your job to be grateful for.

Perhaps you’re not happy in your current relationship? Once again, you chose to be with that person, just as you have the power to choose whether you want to stay and fix the problems or whether you choose to find someone else. You could also choose to focus only on the good aspects of the person you love, rather than focusing on all the things you want to criticize.

The point here is that your happiness can be created by design.

Learn how now: Reunited Relationship M3 System

When you focus on the things you’re grateful for and spend some time working on things that make you happy within yourself, people are naturally drawn to you. You become like a magnet.

Don’t hand over the keys to your own happiness to anyone else. Your happiness is up to you, so make a decision about what makes you happy and go for it.

A Collision is Unavoidable, It’s In the Genes

Men and women are destined to be different. Genetically, we’re not the same. Biologically we’re not the same. Hormonally, emotionally and logically we’re not the same.

So why is it we expect our partners to think and react and respond the same way we do to certain situations?

Many couples argue over the smallest things simply because they don’t have an understanding of how differently the other person is viewing the real issue at hand. They also don’t have an awareness that men and women will have opposite hormonal reactions to stress that can skew their responses during that argument.

When you look at how completely opposite men and women can be, it’s no wonder so many of us clash with the ones we really love.

So while a clash might be inevitable, it doesn’t have to mean it’s a bad thing.

All couples argue from time to time. It’s how we handle those disagreements that can either make a relationship stronger or doom it to die a painful death.

Reunited Relationship M3 System

When a man gets into a stressful situation, like an argument with a loved one, he’ll release testosterone into his system. This might help him feel less stressed, but a woman may perceive him as becoming overly aggressive in his responses.

However, when a woman gets into a stressful situation, like that same argument with a loved one, she isn’t able to release her own stress-relieving hormone, oxytocin, into her system. In fact, she may even begin to release testosterone herself, which can actually increase her stress-levels and make her respond far more
aggressively than she usually would.

And so the argument escalates and both of you retreat into a stony silence where you both start wondering if this relationship is worth the effort at all.

However, if you were to understand how your partner differs from you and take this into account when trying to get your point of view across, perhaps your discussion could actually bring you both a deeper understanding of the other person’s thinking.

This might actually strengthen your relationship instead of colliding head-on like two speeding cars on a highway!

Michael Griswold Reunited Relationships Intro

Michael Griswold Reunited Relationships Video check out his website and you will learn a lot from him on how to get your ex back.

It’s Time Out – You Are Not a Machine

Many women complain that they do all the work in the relationship. They’re tired, they’re stressed and they’re constantly trying to do things to make sure their partner is okay.

How many women do you know seem like they’re walking on egg-shells around their partner, trying to pander to his every whim and desire just in case he might leave her?

Yet, in all of this, they often forget to do anything positive for themselves. No wonder they’re burned out and frazzled.

Then comes the big one – your partner wants a break. He wants to see other people. He doesn’t feel as close to you anymore. He’s simply pulling away or not calling as often or not making dates.

It can be devastating to know you’ve put in all that effort and he’s still pulling away. You did everything right. You did everything he wanted, the moment he wanted it. You dropped everything for him the moment he snapped his fingers…

Time out.

When did it become your job to be a machine? For any relationship to work, there needs to be a certain level of equality and respect for each other. If you’re voluntarily doing everything that needs to be done, you’ve removed the equality.

This can lead you to feeling neglected, unappreciated, resentful and simply burned out. When you’re feeling this way, your partner will be viewing you differently to the woman he fell in love with. He might even be tempted to pull away, because he feels that he can’t make you happy, so he might as well find someone he can make happy instead.

This isn’t the result you wanted from all your hard work, but it often works out this way.

Instead of trying to be a machine and doing everything for everyone else, spend a bit of time doing things just to make you feel a little happier. Pamper yourself a little. Spend some time with friends or do something that relaxes you.

That way, when it’s time to be with your partner, he’ll notice that you’re feeling happier, which in turn will inspire him to spend more time with you.

Isn’t that the result you wanted all along? If the answer is YES and you are still mourning your ex, then click on the link below:

Getting Dumped? Here Is The Relationships Advice That Works

Every relationship can be saved, if you only know the right steps to take. Here is step one. Watch Michael Griswold Relationships video and check out our site for more tools to get your love back.

What to Say When Ex Contact You Again for the First Time

Another Michael Griswold Relationships Advice: No contact or limited contact? Here’s a quick tip-that’s not the right question to ask and it might even ruin your chances of getting your ex back.

Popular Online Dating Activities For Men

Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.

Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.

Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”

So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!

Reunited Relationships Problem – How To Communicate!

Relationships Problems can make even the strongest relationship fail. In this video, Reunited Relationships Coach Michael Griswold gives you clear relationship problem advice that you can apply to your life, to your relationship today. Is communication a struggle for you and your lover? Here is 1 tip that will help you with your relationship conflict, and relationship issues.

Michael Griswold Relationships Advice: Should My Ex Get Back?

Michael Griswold Relationships Advice: Get Your Ex Back. When should you try to Get Your Ex Back? Are there times you shouldn’t?

Reunited Relationships Advice: A Man’s Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

If you want to learn more about Michael Griswold’s Relationships Advice click here to read more

Switch to our mobile site