Move Forward by Taking a Step Back

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It sounds strange, I know, but sometimes in order to move forward in your relationship, you need to take a step backwards.

You see, if your relationship isn’t working out the way you planned, or worse, its already ended, this can actually be a great time to get things moving forward again.

When break-ups happen, there is always one person who will try hard to put things back together again. If the other person of the couple just isn’t ready for this, there’s not a lot you can do about it.

This means calling, emailing, texting and generally trying to stay friends is working against you. Your ex wants time apart, so pushing yourself onto him with constant contact could be driving him even further away.

By taking a step back and re-assessing the relationship that was, you’re in a prime position to see where things might have gone wrong. You’ll also be giving yourselves both some time to be apart.

Its during this time that your ex is likely to begin wondering why contact from you has stopped. No matter how badly your relationship ended, remember this is a man who had feelings for you once. Even if those feelings might be buried under other thoughts or issues right now, those feelings are still hidden in there somewhere.

When you really want him to bring those feelings back to the surface, the key could be to let him spend a bit of time without you. He’ll want to know why you’re not calling any more. He’ll be curious what happened to you.

Eventually, he’ll be the one to reach out and reconnect with you.

During this time, it can be difficult to avoid thinking about him and wondering what he’s doing or who he’s with. Rather than spend your time and energy on negative things, try doing things that make you happy. Have a little fun.

This way, by the time you two do reconnect, he’ll be talking to that fun, happy girl he fell in love with – and those feelings he had buried will bubble up to the surface again in no time.

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