Stop the Blaming Game, It’s Counterproductive

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Have you ever watched someone blame everyone else around them for the bad things that happen? It’s almost as though they’re making excuses for why they can’t take responsibility for their own life.

The really sad part about people who look for others to take the blame for their own misfortunes is that they are the types of people who also believe that others should be somehow responsible for all the good things too.

For example, have you ever known someone who believed that her partner was solely responsible for making her happy? She felt it was somehow his job to make her life happy just by being in it.

Yet, when the relationship failed, she blamed him for not trying hard enough, not liking her enough, not loving her enough… the excuses are endless. And they’re all based on blaming someone else.

When you blame others for the things happening to you now, you’re handing over responsibility to someone else. In essence, you’re thinking you are completely blameless and everything that’s happening to you is somehow their fault.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you should accept 100% of the blame onto yourself either. That’s completely counterproductive.

It takes two people to argue. It takes two people to have a happy, successful relationship. You’re both equally responsible for the outcome of what’s going on.

Instead of blaming your partner for what’s going wrong in your relationship, perhaps try focusing on some of the things you really appreciate about him. Really look at his good points. After all, you fell in love with him once, so those qualities are still in there somewhere.

When he starts to notice that you’re no longer criticizing him for not doing enough or not being good enough, he’ll stop acting so defensively. He may even let some of that loving side back out, which is the side of him you wanted to see all along.

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